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To blog about this topic or not? It’s always been something that I have wondered about, something that so many people go through in their lives but don’t talk about much. I still don’t know at the time of writing this when I will actually publish it but I really wanted to write about it as it’s such a big part of my life right now.
Anyone who knows me, knows that I am a talker, a sharer of things, I don’t keep a lot of things to myself, much preferring the problem shared is the problem halved sort of approach and in real life I have let a lot of people know what page we are on in terms of trying for a baby.
Is it not about time?? Are you next?? Ohh have you not made her a grandmother yet?? These are just some of the things that have been said to us since we got married. We have been married 17months and there is still no sign of a baby, not that we haven’t been trying, see we have, for what feels like forever to us but has only been 10 proper cycles (by proper I mean ones that I have been monitoring my fertile time correctly). We started out in the relaxed approach, you know the one that they all tell you you need to have, whether they have kids or not they seem to think that this is the one and only way to fall pregnant…. well I can say it’s not. Yes it helps if you are relaxed but it also helps to actually know when the right time is and to plan to get down to it on those days or the whole month is wasted. I feel that generally on the whole I am quite relaxed, I practice meditation regularly and find it really helps me to not stress all the time about what we are going through.
“Just forget about it, it will happen” so many people say this to someone who is trying, again I know where they are coming from, people can get very obsessed over trying to fall pregnant but you can’t just forget about it, once you start on this journey of planning to start your family you do need to think about it. There is only a small window each month where the timing is right and yes you do need to think a little about when this might be.
We have tried many things in these last 10 cycles, monitoring of ovulation with a Clearblue monitor being the main one, charting BBT, funky chicken everyday, funky chicken every other day, conception vitamins for him and her, acupuncture and the list probably goes on. Not everyone wants to do all of this stuff but as the months have gone on, I am clutching at straws for things that help me feel a little in control of a situation that I in fact have no control over whatsoever and I feel that they help me to remain sane on this emotional roller coaster, they don’t cause me any extra stress or harm us trying in anyway so I will keep going with them.
I always thought that falling pregnant was easy, well at least that’s what they always told me at school, but once you look into it it’s actually quite hard! On average most couples have a 1-6 chance of conceiving each month, this does increase with time and it’s estimated that within a year 84% of couples will be pregnant and 92% within 2 years (Pregnancy figures) which is good news for us as we come up close to a year of trying I’m hoping that we will soon be falling into the 84% group of people.
If you know someone who has shared they are going through difficulties in trying to conceive with you can I please ask you one thing? Don’t tell them to relax, to not think about it, simply just listen to them, it’s a harder journey than anyone can imagine, one where one month feels like 6 and lives wait on something we have no control over to come along and change our lives forever.
Hopefully ours will change forever soon.
This post was written in February but has been in drafts waiting on me feeling I could post it.
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Inspired by Rebecca over on Florence finds and her recent post The Big Spring List I decided to make my own list for things I would like to achieve over the next few months. Some may be more achievable than others!
- 1 – Spend more time doing things as a couple with my hubby. We have just come back from a lovely week away together and it has made me remember how much I enjoy spending time with him and how easily we can forget to actually ‘do’ things when we are at home.
- 2 – Following on from number 1, I want to find more walks that we can do with the dog or go to different places just for walks. We walked loads on our week away and both really enjoyed it.
- 3 – Finish my first ever crocheted blanket for my new niece or nephew. I am still learning crochet and this feels like a big project for me. Nearly finished it now though!
- 4 – Plan our holiday in June. We are spending two weeks touring Ireland in a motorhome so need some idea of where we are going and what we want to do.
- 5 – Get our garden ready for sitting out in. We plant pots and hanging baskets each year as it is far easier with the dog that having flower beds.
- 6 – Make some of the things I have pinned on pinterest.
- 7 – Get pregnant (this one is a whole other post in itself!)
What’s your plans?
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We are off on a little holiday to here. We head away this afternoon for a week, just me, hubby and the dog and I can’t wait. A nice relaxed week just the two of us is just what the doctor ordered.
See you all when we get back.
I had seen a tutorial for making small hearts here Hearts and had tried a few at home to see how they turned out. It was a really easy pattern to follow so I decided to try my hand at making a heart bookmark.
I had seen a smilar idea in a crochet magazine but to be honest I couldn’t really understand the pattern ( I am still struggling with crochet patterns) so I thought I would adapt these ones and try and make my own bookmark for my mum for Mother’s Day.
I find it helps when trying to understand a crochet pattern that it is easier for me to write in down on a piece of paper in long hand rather than the short hand that patterns come in as it then becomes easier for me to understand.
I chose the colours of wool then stitched them together from the back with spare lemon wool so that they were easier to attach to the ribbon.
The ribbon I used was just plain ribbon that I had in my craft box, I ironed it first to make sure it was flat then stitched it onto the back of the hearts using white thread, this was then virtually invisible.
It was a really simple project and my Mum loved it as part of her Mothers Day present with a new book.
I really like the idea of adding handmade gift tags to my finished crochet projects (once they are actually finished that is!) but I couldn’t really find ones that were a reasonable price, the ones above I found via Etsy from America but they came in at around £11 + postage which I thought was a little step, so I decided to make my own. I used to make cards all the time and made all the stationary for our wedding here so luckily I have a few craft items stored upstairs which meant I didn’t have to buy much to make these..
I found some letter clear stamps so thought that I could use those to stamp onto plain luggage tags myself to get the desired result. I have various ink stamps too but I always end up using these ink pens anytime I want to use stamps, I feel they give a better finish as you colour onto the stamp directly so the finish is better. They are quite expensive to buy initially but I have had them for around 8 years and they are still brand new so they don’t dry out which some of my ink stamps have done.
The only problem is that these letters are actually quite big, my initial plan was to make ‘Handmade with love’ but once I laid out the letters on the holder I realised that I wouldn’t have enough room for that.
So I had to go with printing ‘hand’ first then putting ‘made’ underneath it. I’m quite happy with the results though and all it actually cost me was £1.25 for the luggage tags from a local stationary shop.
I can’t wait to finish some of my crochet projects and add these labels to them.