The Two Week Wait
Anyone who is trying to conceive (TTC) will know this dreaded time like the back of their hand, the time between ovulation and waiting on your period to arrive is more commonly called the two week wait. In medical terms it is your luteal phase and it is normally between 12-14 days long.
Until TTC I never knew that two weeks could feel so long, a time where you live in hope of this month being the one that will result in that longed for BFP (big fat positive) on the pregnancy test and more often than not reading into every possible thing you experience as being a sign you could be pregnant.
I have had a few two week waits where I have driven myself insane, looked into every single niggle, Dr Google becoming my best friend but of course only picking out the parts that I wanted to hear, the positive stories that my symptom of that time led to a BFP for someone, ignoring most of the things that told me I was being daft and convincing myself that this was the month because I had x,y & z so it must mean I was pregnant! Thankfully I’ve stopped most of that now though I do admit to still jumping on Dr Google here or there or surfing the Babyandbump website, though I learned pretty quickly to stay off the tww board on there! It would send you pretty daft if you let it.
I thought I would share with you some of my tips to help you get through the two week wait, they are working for me and I find most of the waiting game to not be to difficult anymore.
1- Take up blogging. I didn’t start this blog to talk about TTC but it is such a big part of my life and now that I have posted about our Journey it is a good distraction from actually always thinking about things if that makes sense.
2- Keep busy. Nothing helps more than keeping busy, if you are busy you can’t sit and think about it every second of the day. I took up crochet recently and have found that not only does it help me to relax but I’m that busy trying to figure out what I’m meant to be doing I don’t have time to think about what my body may or may not be doing.
3 – Spend some time relaxing. This is a hard one, relaxing in the two week wait is something that really needs to be worked at and certainly for me did not come naturally. To help me I turned to relaxation CD’s and in my searching came across Circle & Bloom they focus on having a healthy mind and healthy body and along with programs that you can buy they offer a free fertility relaxation 10 minute program that you can download if you click on there name above. I have found it to be really helpful and have since bought their program for natural fertility which I try to use most days. It at least gives you that 10-15 minutes time out each day which I find really useful.
4 – Stop Obsessing over ‘Pregnancy Symptoms’. I hear you already, this is easier said than done, but you really need to do it. Try talking to yourself rationally or talk to yourself as if it was a friend who was doing this to herself, what would you say to her? You need to keep telling yourself that many women get a BFP without any symptoms at all and others have all of the symptoms going but their period turns up religiously. The progesterone you produce after ovulation can cause you to feel all these so called ‘pregnancy symptoms’ whether you are pregnant or not. To try to lower you anxiety you really need to remember that signs don’t always mean anything and that this point I urge you to stay off Dr Google, he is the work of the devil in the two week wait.
5 – Support. As I have said before I am a talker, I feel that support during this whole process is really important, if you don’t feel you can lean on anyone in real life you can be anonymous on a forum like BabyandBump where you can talk to others in the same situation or start a journal. But if you do you need to remember point 4!! I have belonged to this forum for most of our time trying and have found it to be so helpful though you do need to be careful you don’t obsess on there maybe work on time limiting yourself to only being on the forums for a certain length of time per day. Also remember to lean on your partner, although they will never understand how it feels to go through the two week wait as you do, it is important to them as well.
6 – Pregnancy Tests. My tip is to set a date when you will test, say the day your period is due or the day before. Testing too early can really add to your stress and send you up the wall not to mention how much money it costs to be testing everyday from say 6 days before you are due on. And yes before you say it, I know that there are tests out there that say that they can show you up to 6 days before but if you do this each month and don’t get the results you want it can be a very expensive job keeping up with the amount of tests you are going to need!
It is difficult! I know only to well from experience that carrying on as normal through the two week wait can be one of the hardest things to do, you are trying to embark on one of the most life changing events and this could only be a few long days away, these days drag by and it’s so hard to not just focus on counting down the days. People who have never experienced the two week wait will find it difficult to understand the anxiety and obsessions that come from it and just how you are pining all hopes on this being your lucky month so my advice would be to not bring the subject up with them as their replies may just irritate you.
My own thing I hope is for us all to get back to living and enjoying our lives no matter which point in our cycle we are. We don’t need any extra stress or anxiety especially not stress that we bring onto ourselves. So if you are entering a two week wait soon, make a plan with yourself to try and take back some control it’s the only place we have the ability to!